Relationship Counselling & Coaching

I contacted KlearMinds after struggling to deal with anger that was ruining my relationship with my partner. I am very lucky that I found Judy. I had tried another therapist in the past but it did not work for me. 

Judy took me through an intensive 12 week course that delved into my past to see how this impacts present actions and emotions. I learnt how to link my physical and body reactions to real emotions through this scientific and structured approach to anger management. Judy was very kind, caring and gave me the hope and confidence I needed to make a change. Since starting the sessions I have been more positive and things have improved with my partner.

I had sessions with Paul throughout the pandemic which was an extremely challenging time for me. I struggled to cope with the negative emotions that arose from the end of a long-term relationship as well as the feelings of anxiety, isolation and loneliness being in lockdown by myself.

Paul was so easy to talk to and provided me with the kind, caring and empathetic ear
that I needed during significant life changes and the intense emotions that came with it. Initially, I felt quite anxious being so emotionally vulnerable with a man, but Paul helped me work through that fear and anxiety, and I soon felt safe opening up during our sessions.

Paul is incredibly kind, supportive, patient and empathetic. He’s also sharp and alert which was helpful during my many rants and tangents – he really helped keep me on course. Our sessions had a huge impact on my life; I quit smoking, I take better care of myself, I am more emotionally and financially stable, and I am in a secure relationship. Paul would give me full credit for all of that, but I owe a great deal to our sessions.

I highly recommend working with Paul and I have his contact details neatly stored if I need a little extra emotional support in the future. Thank you Paul.

I have always been open to counselling but my partner never has; however earlier this year when we were going through make or break marriage difficulties, my partner found Klearminds. I am very thankful he did, as we found Paul instrumental in making us stay together by understanding each other’s views. We have finished our initial sessions with Paul and will continue with sessions as and when required. Thank you for all of your help Paul!

I came to Maggie not at a point of crisis but at a time when I felt I needed to take stock of where I was in life and to understand and change negative patterns of behaviour after years of struggling with issues related to a traumatic event earlier in life.

I’m so glad I did. Maggie helped me investigate earlier life experiences and dissect the way my life choices and decisions had been affected by them. This allowed me to realise why I had been repeatedly making unhelpful life decisions and not moving forward in the way I wished to.

After a period of working with Maggie I genuinely felt a huge shift take place. I now look at and experience situations, relationships and emotions from a different perspective and feel emboldened to move forward with more confidence and positivity. It’s been a personal revelation for which I’ll always be grateful.

I came to Jess to discuss a relationship issue. Jess was incredibly sensitive and insightful, helping me to gain objectivity and self-understanding, not only in relation to the issue at hand but other areas of my life. She was also very helpful in suggesting practical ways forward, and careful to tailor these to the situation at hand.

Carmen was a calming influence who helped me to open up on a lot of feelings and thoughts that I had not been able to vocalise freely. She listened and asked questions that led me to a realisation of why I had these and how to manage my reactions more positively. Carmen recommended some great reading material during and after sessions and made the experience much easier throughout. I would highly recommend Klearminds and Carmen to anyone looking for a high calibre, conscientious and knowledgeable therapist.

This Financial Analyst and working mother had to deal with redundancy, a difficult new job, relationship challenges, child rearing and her own history of being unsupported and bullied in the past. Here’s what she says:

I started to see Maggie for ways to help me deal with old patterns of thoughts which lead to increased levels of stress and low confidence. She really helped me understand the roots of my thinking, how things had changed through time and ways in which I could shape my thoughts differently and break free of my old patterns. As a result, my stress levels have vastly improved and I have a very different outlook on life. I have also been able to break away from old patterns of thoughts which has been very positive in helping me deal with new situations. Maggie has a great ability to be empathetic. She is a great listener and can tailor therapy sessions to your needs and how you can best work through your sessions.

This very busy, professional couple wanted to stop arguments which were occurring with increasing frequency. They were really concerned their relationship would break up. They wanted to improve their communication skills so they could trust each other and save their relationship. After 4 double sessions with Maggie, here’s what they have to say:

We found Maggie to be a huge help in our request for improving our communication skills. Maggie will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it is linked to so you understand you a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique, not just for you as a couple, but for you and all your relationships. She is also warm and fun which really helps!:)

We now communicate better and understand one another… invaluable and life changing. Many thanks again.

When I came to see Maggie I was very depressed, but also very cynical about the benefits of seeing a therapist. I was working as a sales director for a large city firm, which I thought was what I wanted, but I had very little confidence in my abilities, and no idea why. I also had very bad relationships with my partner and family, finding it almost impossible to talk about my feelings. Over the course of the last 10 months Maggie has helped me to understand why I was feeling and behaving as I was, and help me to turn things around so that I am now very happy with my lot in life.

At first there appeared to be little structure to our sessions and I did question why I was spending the money “just talking” to a stranger. But after a few months the pieces of the jigsaw started to fit together and a lot of things started to make sense to me.

I have now left the industry that I was in – Maggie helped me discover that I basically hated what I had been doing for the past 8 years, driven by a desire to have an “impressive” job rather than one which I enjoyed. My relationship with my partner is now fantastic, as are my relationships with my family. And I am much more comfortable talking to them about my feelings. I am also no longer a cynic about the power of the subconscious mind and the value of spending time with a first class therapist like Maggie. It’s not easy, and sometimes I dreaded going to our sessions, but the results are definitely worth the effort.

Maggie, thank you so much for all of your work with me this year. I really don’t know where I would be now if it hadn’t been for your help. I am so much happier now than I have been in many, many, years and am looking forward to the next stage of my life!

I started to see Maggie as a work coach at a time when I was frustrated with my job and felt like I was working myself into the ground, but not getting any returns. She gave me invaluable advice that made me think about my needs and my worth. Her support made me realise I wasn’t failing, which was an issue for me. Within weeks, I’d left my job. My new confidence meant that, when I was offered a new job, I was able to ask for the role and salary I wanted without feeling like an imposter or that I didn’t deserve it. I’m now in a job I love, and have just been promoted!

My therapy was supposed to just be about work, but Maggie delved into my past and roots and made me see why I was struggling in relationships too. Just like work, I was aiming to please people and feeling like a failure when I couldn’t fix everything. I’m now much more confident and comfortable with who I am, and I understand my feelings more. I’ve been in a great relationship for almost two years now.

The science approach from Maggie appealed to me as I’m not really into the ‘how do you feel about that’ approach constantly. Maggie challenged me, was blunt with me, tested me, but also listened to me and never forgot a previous conversation. I’ve recommended her to numerous friends since and I know she’s helped them massively too.

When I first started seeing Maggie I felt very unmotivated, lonely and exhausted. It seemed the more I tried to fix things myself, the worse they got. I sought counselling as a last resort, when I simply didn’t know what else to do.

Our sessions were hard work at first. Maggie was very good at challenging the negative way I thought about myself. But she was also a brilliant listener and our sessions were incredibly motivating. She was very good at explaining why I felt the way I did. She made me see that I wasn’t “crazy” or even unusual, which made me feel less isolated. Aside from being someone understanding to talk to, Maggie taught me through exercises to help me practice thinking about myself and my life in a more positive light.

Maggie helped me get to know myself better. She helped me identify things about life that I enjoy, and taught me to feel good about those things! She also helped me identify the things that I didn’t like, and to find the strength to get rid of them! My relationships with my friends and family have greatly improved. I have gone from tolerating life to loving it, including the bumpy bits. I cannot recommend Maggie enough. I will be forever grateful to her.

Me and the people around me in my life were of the opinion that therapy was a waste of money and that many of the regular intense feelings that I had every day (anger, doubt in myself, my choices and my relationships) and the overthinking/analysis that I performed in order to help “figure these things out” were just “part of the parcel of life” and that I should just calm down and get on with it.

Knowing therapy was always an option, I took the hard approach for over 10 years. My views were “I’m a mentally strong man and I will battle this every day and NEVER break like others around me” “I won’t show a chink in my armour or any sign of weakness in a million years” “I will outlast a weak minded society and continue being successful in life and on a pathway that I decide is best for me” “the world is wrong – the news, social media (professional and social) reports are jumping on the bandwagon and giving in to the “snowflake generation” by constantly mollycoddling society and simply ticking a box with their focus on mental health”

I thought that all I needed were close family and friends to talk to about what I was going through and that this would be enough to reassure myself that I was fine and that I was on the right path regardless. Whilst this approach was very helpful and probably a major reason why I didn’t end up in a terrible state, this only provided relief for short periods and I was always back to square one again very quickly. After all i was someone who often doubted myself and others.

Everything came on top at one particular point and fortunately I was able to recognise this along with the people who were close to me (through my openness with them they were able to spot this too). There was no “major event” that triggered this however I concluded that I had to take action if I was to prevent an entire lifetime fighting a constant and unsustainable mental battle every day.

I thoroughly researched therapists and decided that Judy was the most qualified person to help me. The descriptions / biographies on Klearminds allowed me to do this a lot easier than other websites and if you are reluctant to try therapy this process can be off putting but I urge you to persist.

I didn’t expect it but the first session was life altering in itself. This was simply the “getting to know the you” stage but saying the words out loud to Judy provided an overwhelming sense of release and resulted in a surprisingly emotional first session. This was the start of what was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

It’s now 1 month after I have completed therapy and I couldn’t recommend Judy more highly. The key points/takeaways for me were:

We set clear goals and achieved them which disproved my thoughts that therapy was a waste of money/I’d be strung along forever making marginal or temporary improvements.

You have to be completely honest so that Judy can help you (there is never judgement, just help)

I have a greater understanding of myself and my brain than ever before

In order to get the most out of these sessions you must be prepared to apply what you learn in real life.

The techniques and clarity that I have gained have ended the constant mental battle for all of the issues that I felt I had.

Be kind to yourself (for real)

I cannot recommend Maggie enough. I had tried counselling before and thought it wasn’t for me. I now realise that finding the right counsellor makes all the difference.

I went to see Maggie when I felt I was no longer able to cope and everything in my life was going wrong. I couldn’t understand why. Maggie was very incisive in identifying the issues. My sessions with her have not only helped me gain an understanding of my habits and patterns but also given me the tools to break the bad habits and understand what is important. As a result I feel in control, grounded and confident in all parts of my life and most importantly, I feel capable of moving forward in my life. My only regret is that I hadn’t found Maggie sooner.